it's no surprise that the new erotic film 50 shades of grey was released during valentine's day. before it hit the big screen it was already invading the hearts and minds of women with it's printed book.
there's been a lot of talk about how christians should think about the film and the message it's trying to convey-- never think any movie is just a movie, it's always trying to convey a message. the film is a form of art, and it's a mirror to what the culture is really thinking, what art tends to do.
i watched the trailer out of "curiosity" and found myself shocked and interested in the plot. why? i think it was girl lust! i wasn't necessarily thinking of intercourse or sexual images but it certainly could have gone there, but i was more intrigued by the male character and how they portrayed him--handsome, winsome, authoritative, passionate, AND desires the female counter part to the nth-degree. which is exactly what they were going for--women can be drawn to this type of male figure....fiction or non.
It's interesting how women's lust can be left unnoticed because it almost seems to hurt no one. false. it hurts people. it hurts the woman's own soul. i've seen this countless times and it's destroyed families. it's a force not to be triffled with. the outworkings of women's lust versus men's lust can be like night and day but the heart issues are identical. men tend to be more visually stimulated, that's why the porn industry has taken hold of our men's hearts. lots to say about mens lust but i'd like to focus on women.
we women tend to be emotionally stimulated. before a woman commits the actual sexual sin of adultery, chances are she's already had an emotional attachment. why? women love to be desired, to be wanted, this is a good thing BUT in the covenant of marriage, not outside its boarders. if the woman is the object of a man's lustful mind and heart, this can be very emotionally satisfying for her. i wrote this post 3 years ago to warn dating christians the dangers of lust before marriage and what it can look like after marriage. it's pretty scary stuff if not addressed.
I recently was talking to a young man who's dating a gal and i was asking questions about their lust. as you might like to think, you probably would assume he'd slowly be walking away! nope. he pulled up a chair and was intrigued, especially when i came to the girl lust part. he had no idea! he had no idea that when guys lust after the girl it feeds her lust of being wanted--like she's some kind of sex god! it sounds ridiculous but very true. he was shocked, i saw light bulbs going off in his head. i reminded him that even the way a girl dresses can be used to get a lustful reaction from the guy by the short skirt she's wearing, or the midriff shirt she's flaunting. i know this because i was there in my younger days :(
another thing about lust is that it wants to hide. it wants to stay in its shame infested closet. when i watched the trailer i felt ashamed that i was interested in the plot and felt a desire to be in the character's shoes. soon after i talked to my husband about it. he was helpful, supportive and asked good heart questions. i knew he knew what battling with lust feels like. he battles with it like all men/most men do. he does not shy away from confession and wanting to kill sin in his life. my husband is amazing. i really can't express in words the love and every endearing emotion under the sun i have for him. he's helped me to be open, not lie and hide sin, no matter how ugly the truth can seem. truth is the best medicine.
my lovely husband asked "what did you observe that you wanted?" but the question that was most helpful that my lovely asked was, "what do you really want?" my reply, "my husband to love the Lord with all his heart. to love his wife and make much of her and point her to Jesus. a father who leads his children and loves them. a man of integrity. a man who dates his wife and studies her. a man who serves others and points them to Christ."
it's funny but i just described my lovely husband :) he is what i really want, not some fabricated, hollywood, fictional character! even if the 50 shades of grey character was real, he'd sure need a lot of counseling! no thanks.
Tuesday, February 17, 2015
Thursday, February 12, 2015
It's feeling crazy around here. a lot of good stuff and a lot of hard stuff. but all-in-all, God has been working and things have been looking hopeful in the Lord.
a vacation run in San Diego
a must stop on our way to san diego rockin' baja lobster
the san juan capistrano mission
my birthday gift
Tuesday, December 23, 2014
Merry Christmas & Happy New Year!!!
PJ, Frances, Rock(8), Key(6), Story(4) and City(1)
Thursday, December 4, 2014
It's been 2 years since the Lord has taken Danika. We all miss this girl like crazy. My kids talk about their Ate Danika frequently. We have pictures of her in their room so they can remember her sweet face and reminisce of funny stories they cherish with her.
We miss you....
Wednesday, November 26, 2014
The kids made these "suspicious turkeys" just in time for the holidays. We were calling them suspicious because they really do, don't they? The kids soon began making up a story to these suspicious turks (not a racist comment!) and that is how this story came into fruition...(craft idea from here)
They'd be in the sky to their next assignment as soon as the subject was verified.
The agents flew high, fast and stealth.
There plan of attack was just about ready, a few minor changes then destruction!
Right above them and they weren't even detected.
Ha! Enemy down.
But wait where's Mr. Owl?
Long gone I bet.
He won't stop till he's caught.
Till next time....
Friday, November 21, 2014
this week has been a little crazy with Key being sick and vomiting all over the place :( thankfully she's been a trooper and taking her little bucket with her wherever she is.
praise God i just got the itch to cook again! i have been cooking but with no real pleasure in it. i really think its the weather change--fall and winter are my favorite! now it's time to fatten up and hibernate:) our place lacks central air (i know, what a baby i am) so cooking is a hassle when its hot. made this simple cake and topped it with a brown sugar crumble = coffee cake. tonight i'll be making chicken pot pie.
we bought this book last month and hopefully we'll read it soon. their promo video is too cute. i love their cause in making this book.
it looks like a bunch of the newbies at FSBC will be in a musical! me too!
our cousin just got engaged and we're ecstatic! she's all grown up :(
i've been looking for a sofa high and low. for years it seems. looking for these things and a budget friendly price tag.
i tried making these earlier this year but i'll need to make another using her technique.
danika's death memorial is coming up soon and it just brings up so many emotions and memories. we all miss her so much.
Wednesday, November 19, 2014
Key's birthday celebration was back in may and I never updated her surprise balloon party. we try to make it a family tradition for the kids. they love waking up to a living room full of balloons!
lots of new changes in our family. well, it's really just one but it sure makes everything else feel different! PJ is the new pastor of first southern baptist church of bellflower. that means we'll be moving to bellflower soon. i'm still getting use to the new routine especially on sunday. i know for sure i need tons of grace and that's what i have been praying for our family and the church.